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by Captain_Autumn @ 19/07/2007 - 10:58:17

I've deleted two of my Friends. That's a very emotive way of putting it, isn't it? It makes me sound like something out of 'Blade Runner'. Thing is, one of them had no activity in 312 days, and another had, as far as I can tell, never read anything I'd written and has a weblog which has so little in common with mine that I'd never read it either. I comment rarely but I do keep in touch with what people post, but not in this instance, and it seemed rather pointless to keep this person on my list. It almost seemed disrespectful to the rest of you to retain someone so not attuned to the general ambience.

However, I'm not sure what the form is here. When someone sends you an invitation you get to weigh it up, look at their weblog, consider the issue. When you delete them, bam they're gone. It's a particularly impersonal way to conduct oneself (on what is, though many delude themselves otherwise, a thoroughly impersonal medium). I can't help thinking it might be nice to have a halfway point - when you're thinking of deleting someone, a little window could come up into which you could type "Look, I'm not sure this is really working out... I feel like we've grown apart... It's not you, it's me..." (Apologies for my appropriation of break-up cliches - I've never actually split up with anybody, so I can't draw on personal experience.)

I really ought to be trying to acquire more friends, bearing in mind the utterly pointless piece of promotion I'm going to execute in a forthcoming posting, rather than indulging in this act of wanton recision. Never mind though. It feels good to cleanse. Who will be next for my cyber-scythe? Perhaps I should go the whole hog and start trimming you down one by one, Agatha Christie style. I could whittle it down person by person, ending up with a sole Friend who, to complete the artistic vision, I would probably have to actually murder.

This possibly isn't the best way to encourage people to read my weblog.


 
 

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deleted user [Visitor]

2007-07-19 @ 11:18

Ha! Killing off Friends might not be the best way to encourage folk to read your blog but, writing pieces like the above is, for sure. Is that sentence English? Is recision a word? I'm off to find a dictionary. James.

I did it recently too, and it was very hard, especially as you say you can't say anything to them but just have to delete them...I just couldn't keep up with all the emails or some hadn't been online for months like yours...maybe you should try making just a few more comments though on the rest of your friends' blogs...BLOL...

GoingSomewhereGoingSomewhere [Member]
2007-07-22 @ 21:28

It's pointless keeping 'friends' who are never there as they just clutter up the friends page. There should be some way whereby you can remove a friend, but if they want to keep you as a friend they can. I really dislike this business of both parties having to be agree to the 'friendship'.

And, Captain, is that a true likeness of yourself above? It is so different from the original representation. Somehow, and don't laugh, you look taller.

Captain_AutumnCaptain_Autumn [Member]
2007-07-22 @ 21:31

It is a mutated version of the photo from my work ID card. Photoshop is a wonderful tool. As indeed am I, on occasion.

GoingSomewhereGoingSomewhere [Member]
2007-07-22 @ 21:35

Wonderful!

MarikaSunSeekerMarikaSunSeeker [Member]
2007-07-25 @ 12:32

I agree with your reasoning on this matter entirely. I am currently suffering the same dillema - to scythe or not to scythe? that is the question... I also tend to feel mean when refusing new friend invites without any explanation. I think this is also a side effect of our transference of "normal" relationship rules to a medium which is unable to accomodate such sensitivities; especially if like me, you are inclined to remain anonymous. After all, it must be quite difficult to take a relationship with a Giraffe seriously lol.

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